The Importance of Self Worth
Over the last 6 months I have been truly digging deep into my thoughts to see where some of my negative habits have come from. I have been practicing the art of sitting silent and listening to the thoughts racing around in my mind. Have you done that before? I didn’t realise just how many thoughts are really in there! And they aren’t all good.
After doing this for a few months I realised that I had some real issues with my own self worth. Since becoming a mother my own importance was purely to feed and take care of my family. What about me? What about pampering myself? What about giving myself a break to read a good book, exercise, have a nap? What about spending some money on myself? These things had disappeared as I didn’t feel like I should be ‘wasting’ money on myself. How crazy is that? Not so crazy if you are a mother or if you have some negative thoughts racing through your mind telling you that you are not worth it.
This got me thinking and thanks to a chapter in Louise Hay’s book ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ I realised that I had some childhood issues to deal with. I won’t bore you with my issues but I will share a couple of activities you can do for yourself, with your students/children and also within your workplace
Look into the mirror. Stop and listen to what thoughts come into your mind. Are they beautiful thoughts telling you that you are one sexy lady? Are they telling you that you need to start/increase the eye cream? Are they pointing out all the little flaws? Really listen.
Now say to yourself ‘I love and accept you’. It may feel weird and you might think it is a waste of time but I want you to do that every time you see a mirror. You might say it to yourself when you are in public but I want you to say it out loud whenever possible.
For Your Students/Children:
In a group sit down and talk about all the things you love about yourself. It could be physical aspects or personality traits. Ask a couple of the children what they like about themselves. Talk about the activity you are about to do and that it is so important to love ourselves as it can make us happy.
Get some large art paper (probably the newspaper rolls) and get the children to take turns laying down and get their friends to trace the outside of their bodies and for them to write their names across their tummies. It doesn’t have to be perfect J
Once everyone is done, each person is to write what they like about themselves. If the children can’t write, get them to colour in the different parts of their bodies that they love. Their eyes? Hair? Nose?
Find a space to hang the love pictures up and ask the children about what title they would want to use.
For the workplace:
Sometimes this can be difficult because you may find a lot of resistance with staff. This activity is all about appreciating our self and creating this habit amongst all staff. You will have to gauge the level of commitment amongst the staff and level of resistance to change.
At your staff meeting introduce the topic of self worth. Highlight the following points:
- Our own self image sets the benchmark for the people/children around us.
- When our self worth is high we take better care of ourselves, what we eat, what we watch, what we listen to and exercise.
- By improving our self image we create a better environment for ourself and naturally attract happier people.
- When our self image is high we also create a better workplace through our more vibrant energy.
Activity – I recommend starting gently with this activity to ensure that staff aren’t scared off! Hand out a small piece of paper for each person. Get them to write down one aspect of their body and personality that they love. Put all of the pieces into a box and get each person to pick one out. As a group get people to guess whose piece of paper it was.
Ensure it stays a fun and energetic environment so people don’t feel too self-conscious.
I would love to know how you go with any of these activities!
Now go and check out that sexy lady in the mirror.